Supporting Children in Grief: Insights from Trauerland Association
Silence Common Among Grieving Children Upon Parent's Death: Numerous Kids Remain Mute Initially
For a quarter-century, the Bremen-based Trauerland association has offered solace to children and young people navigating the complexities of grief. In an interview, educational director Antje Wicke discusses the organization's approach, and why open discussions about death can help children cope with loss.
Wicke recounts her personal experiences growing up in a village where death was a taboo subject. The community did not expose children to funerals or engage them in discussions about death, with the intention of protecting them. However, this approach had unintended consequences, leaving Wicke feeling excluded.
During her studies, Wicke developed an interest in delving deeper into this topic, with a desire to understand alternative approaches that could foster a more inclusive environment.
While the culture has evolved significantly over the past few decades, Wicke acknowledges that questions about involving children in funeral rituals still linger.
At Trauerland, children are encouraged to express their grief through various activities, such as games, art, and creative play. Many children may initially feel hesitant to talk about their grief but gradually open up as they immerse themselves in the offered activities.
When asked about discussing death with children, Wicke advocates for openness and honesty. Children have an uncanny ability to sense whether information is being withheld. It is essential to be truthful when discussing a loved one's passing to foster trust and enable the child to begin the healing process.
Wicke acknowledges that parental grief can make it challenging to support children during their time of need. In such instances, involving other trusted adults can provide the necessary assistance and companionship for grieving children.
Looking ahead, Trauerland plans to launch a pop-up store in the city center to engage young people who are reluctant to participate in group activities. The store will offer a low-threshold environment where individuals can drop in, explore resources, discuss ideas, and ask questions during the darker winter months.
During conversations about loss, it is crucial to emphasize that grief is a normal and unavoidable part of life. Offering open communication, reassurance, consistency, and avenues for expression can facilitate healing for children in the face of adversity.
In Bremen, Trauerland association's pop-up store aims to serve health-and-wellness by offering resources to children who are hesitant to discuss grief in group settings. Antje Wicke, the educational director, believes this low-threshold environment will promote mental-health by encouraging open conversations about loss, emphasizing its normalcy and enabling the healing process.
